Love it, even when you hate it


Hello Dear Reader,

I’ll be honest, I don’t like my front door and I don’t like my back door either. Often, when we have something we don’t like we change it, sometimes at great expense. When looking around a prospective new house, some people won’t buy somewhere because of the door or the kitchen and convince themselves that ‘it’s not up to our standard.’ That’s very easy for us to overcome as I obviously have very low standards as I’ll live with anything if it’s: in good condition, it works, there’s nothing wrong with it and it does the job it’s intended to do. 

Then, when I’ve got past the fact that a door is a door then I’ll look after it like I love it. My doors, which I hate, get washed and wiped down every week to keep them in good condition. DB oils the locks and hinges also to keep them in good working order. I then give them a spray furniture polish to give the door a shine. Finally, the step gets scrubbed with hot soapy water and rinsed with a generous swoosh of cold water. 

So where am I going with this? We’re different aren’t we? We have what we have and just live with it as we don’t want to spend money on things we don’t need. We don’t waste a perfectly good door, sofa, table in the name of fashion, looks, what anyone thinks, the wow factor and never care a damn how old it is either. We respect function and we look after it as we know it’s good enough.

Now it’s your turn. Who else has something they really don’t like or even hate but take care of it?

Until tomorrow,

Love Froogs xxxx

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26 thoughts on “Love it, even when you hate it

  1. Such wise words. We are very lucky, we could afford new things but can’t bear the waste of replacing for the sake of it. For example a kitchen we don’t like just because we don’t like it. It works and as you say, if looked after, will last a very long time.

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  2. I hate my kitchen floor! It’s darkish blue tiles and I don’t know what I was thinking when I got them! But it is kept clean and its serviceable with bleach and grout spray I’m expecting at least another five years out of it! I have had my car for fifteen years but I’m very attached to that! My other half is great with mechanics so keeps it on the road! It’s been paid for for ten years!

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  3. Froogs, this chimes with me! we are a couple on one income and while all our friends have very nice, new state-of-the art kitchens and bathrooms, ours are pretty ordinary.
    There’s no marble or fancy taps! However I’m determined to be glad of them: they’re perfectly functional and pleasant. I will take care of them even better now!

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  4. We have a champagne coloured bathroom suite. It is still like new after 28 years .I was told not to use cream cleaners on it as it dulls the surface of the acrylic bath, but to use any mild liquid soap, which I always do.
    I would love a white bathroom suite but can’t bring myself to throw away a perfectly good suite.
    At least it’s not Barbie pink, like my friends bathroom suite !! (She can’t get rid of hers either )

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  5. I agree with all your sentiment, and now, need to act. I have been blessed with everything I need, and the fact that something doesn’t look pretty, is down to how well I take car eof it, whether that be an appliance, a floor, a counter, or my wardrobe. Wise words.

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  6. Such true facts. We replaced our kitchen and desperately wanted to update to a fashionable glass splash back……however $3000 AUD later we could just not justify, especially as the subway tiles that we have are in perfect condition. We decided to be sensible and invested in grout and tile cleaner and a bit of elbow grease and they look as good as new……..I now love what I thought I hated!

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  7. My front and side doors are heavy wood–oak, I think. and were painted dark grey (as was most everything outdoors) when we moved in. They were ugly but my first thought was refinishing NOT replacing. I took a week’s vacation just to do that, and I didn’t even finish the first door. I think it took about a year to do both, working on weekends after the vacation was over. They were stripped, sanded, stained, and coats of varnish put on. They look just fine and are only now looking like it’s time to re-do them once again! (20 years hence, I would guess.) We spent a small fortune on storm doors, which were cheap colonial styled doors on a Queen Anne house. Those two doors cost $400 each and later we replaced the one on the little balcony outside our bedroom. They had to be special ordered. We have never been sorry for spending that money, although it was a lot.

    We splurged on a few things along the way but not many. Our bathroom sink was expensive but elegant and I love it, and anyhow, husband refused to replace tub and toilet, so I was going to get a sink I dearly loved, since that was ALL I was getting. I still dearly love it!! Most of the things we got were very inexpensive and still serve just fine. I’m beginning to see things that could be re-finished but I’m quite able to do that myself. Anyhow, I think I do a better job with stain than DH does.

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  8. I have a 30 year old kitchen that is simply disgusting! The doors have a fake linen cover on them and brown round plastic door knobs. The counters are a chocolate and yellow fleck laminate. The splash back tiles look like something out of a bad 70’s movie. Yep I hate the kitchen! Even though I hate it I cannot afford to replace it so I look after it and keep it as well as I can. I am hoping to have saved enough money by years end to get the new kitchen. It’s a process that will be worth it in the end.

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  9. WE really do need new carpet. But I am trying to squeeze every last bit out of it. I truly hate that the trim and doors in our home were painted a 70’s colour called MIssion Brown. It is everywhere and very difficult to paint over as goes it shows through. But the house is functional etc and other things are far more important.

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  10. This chimes with me. I’ve a kitchen that was re-fitted (amateurishly) in the ’80s by a previous house owner. I’d love to have a swish, shiny new kitchen but it’d cost thousands for even such a small room. So I live with it, and it’s fine.
    I think the problem is -we’re constantly told by advertising, property programmes etc that we’re judged by the state of our homes. Not just the cleanliness, but the stylishness. That our homes reflect our personalities and values. So we don’t want to be viewed as out-of-date or shabby people. We don’t want visitors to see our dreary room and assume it reflects us and our values. But it’s not worth getting into debt or splurging savings that might be needed further down the line on a fancy pants design just to boost a fragile ego, as far as I’m concerned. So I’ll live with the ’80s kitchen and if anyone judges me by it, that’s their problem. x

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  11. My car a saloon has never given me a days trouble it’s 9 years old.(service before nct (mot)this week €130) I took a big hit fiancially this year having my 5th baby. And would love to start a course next year to change careers. So I won’t be changing car even though it’s impractical for me with 5 kids as they don’t fit but if the situation does arise (not many places a 15yr and 3 month will visit at the same ) we will just have to take two cars. I look after car regularly check it over have seat covers to maintain it. If it was a few years ago I would have taken out a loan to upgrade it . But now I value saving for my dd to go to university as more important than changing something that works

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  12. I cheated a bit regarding this over the weekend. I had a cabinet in my front room that I had had for 15 years, it was too small and I had totally fallen out of love with it. I saw a lovely old 1930s cabinet at a sale at the weekend, just what I had in mind. I bought the cabinet but my Dad now has my old one for his books, so between us we have recycled 2 cabinets.

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  13. Re the spraying of furniture polish on your door – is that on the upvc one and does it keep the dust and dirt off such doors? Interested to know as I can clean my upvc door one day and the next day the static or whatever it is in the door seems to have attracted just as much dust to it!

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  14. My cottage was built in the 60s and very little has been replaced since then. We are slowly, slowly replacing or fixing or painting.
    I have a kitchen that desperately needs replacing but as we’re building an outdoor kitchen that we can use while we replace the falling apart kitchen, I clean the limo floors every week, keep the old stove and benches clean and know that we will be updating the kitchen soon enough.
    When we bought our house we got it for a good price, thinking we would extend it to have a second living area and 4 bedrooms (we have 3 young children). Since then we have found out our younger 2 children have high functioning ASD and for the moment I can’t work a lot. We are so thankful we have a solidly built home that fits our family (even if it’s cosy) and a mortgage we can afford on one wage. It may not be what we dreamt of, but it’s worth looking after for this reason alone!

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  15. I would kill for such a door. I have an old, dark brown door Eiche rustikal. It is giant, it is heavy and not a single glimpse of light comes through. I always have to have the light on in the corridor.

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  16. What a lovely post.
    I very recently went to a friend’s coffee morning. She was showing off her newly designed, renovated and decorated house and as I walked round looking at her home I got a serious case of the green eyed monster.
    Why couldn’t my house have beautiful oak floors? Why couldn’t I have new bathrooms? Why was my house so badly designed there is nowhere to store the hoover or ironing board? Why do I have to live with a kitchen I HATE? – It’s not fair.
    But when I got home I realised that my home is ours. Mr M works bloody hard so that we can live here. We’ve saved hard so we could pay off our mortgage by the ages of 40 (him) and 25 (me)
    This is where I was carried over the threshold after our wedding, this is where we bought our new born babies home to. Whilst it may not have the shiny white bathrooms or kitchen of my dreams, whilst it may not be my dream house, it’s our home and we look after it; as it looks after us.
    One day, once we’ve saved enough pennies, we will replace the kitchen and bathrooms, but we won’t get into debt to do it. Until then I keep the house clean, tidy and looked after. Xx

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  17. Excellent words that ring true especially as I have a loathing for my front door. However I am now going to paint it and not replace it. I liked Valeries comment about stylish and expensive items reflecting our personalities and values and not wanting to be seen as out of date etc. This is an issue I have been thinking about recently. Lots of my friends and neighbours seem to be moving on-wards and upwards and it has left me feeling a little resentful. Reading these insightful comments will moderate my thinking and make me a bit happier with what we have. I am usually a fix it, paint it, clean it and make it do sort of person.

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  18. First of all, I particularly like your door with the arched window- we had one for 25 years before we replaced it. Back door was replaced when dd was 21 – she’d put her toddler trike handlebar through the panel when she was 2 …. . My furniture is all getting very old now – but we bought it in the first few years of married life and most of it I just don’t want to part with. Kitchen is a sore point, but cost aside, it’s the thought of the upheaval involved – what will drive me to it in the end is the awful kitchen floor tiles. DH came home with them, supposedly a bargain but they are just terrible to clean and I’ve put up with them for 18 years. When my daughter had just started school I had a big life lesson and was very lucky to survive after a serious collapse just before Christmas. At that point my then kitchen was being replaced after building work. When I was better, the thought of stressing over units and finishes just seemed plain daft. None of it was in fashion then and it certainly isn’t now. Life is just too short to spend in furniture shops and tiles. Buy stuff and keep it. Just a quick ask, is anyone like me and can’t stand the idea of a spare room not used most of the time? My bedrooms have tables in them, big enough to work on – they’ve been handy over the years – sewing, doing homework, sorting stuff, and recently the surface for taking marketing photos for dd’s college project. I say use your rooms and furniture re thoroughly!

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  19. I wouldn’t get a new door just because i didn’t like the one that was there either, I don’t think there is anything in our house that I hate, we have decorated and changed most things over the last 3 years but things were done because we wanted them to last and not keep replacing as we aged. We don’t change or buy new things for the sake of it, what we have now will hopefully last us. Having said that I can’t see the point in putting up with something if you really hate it. But Yes everyone has different standards and ways of doing things, what one person sees as extravagant another might not

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  20. I am appalled at the words “upgrade.” What they mean is get stainless steel appliances and top of the line countertops–granite. I am happy with my yellow laminate countertops and white appliances.

    My friend who has a million in savings besides investments has a turquoise stove in the kitchen and a pink bathroom. He can afford new, but he says they work. He keeps his place immaculate. He drags home furniture from the curbs, spends nothing on furnishings. He does have several servers, three computers, laptop, expensive cameras. That is where he upgrades.

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