I’m not alone, there are plenty of people like me.

I have been looking, as I often do, at Frugal Websites. I do this when I feel as if I’m doing what I do when no one elses bothers. I feel a bit isolated at the moment because, in a management meeting at school, they were discussing rewards for students and mentioned a chain of restaurants,where the reward was a family voucher, so the winning student could take their family for supper. I had never heard of it. It was then I realised how far out of the social loop I am, as I haven’t eaten out since 2008, when I went cold turkey and stopped spending money.

Every now and then, I miss money. Once, if I needed clothes, I went to a shop and bought them. Now, I have to scour eBay and charity shops and keep a constant eye open. I can’t buy what I need when I need it, but have to pre-empt that if I see something in my size. If I see a pair of long legged size 16 jeans, I buy them! If I see something smart for work. I buy it. If something comes up on Freecycle that I could need, then I ask for it and sometimes get it. I now have a £20 a month budget for shoes and all clothing………..and I stick to it.

Today, I was reading various posts and articles on the Economides family website, that you can visit by clicking here . I do a lot of the things they do:

I stock take at home every week – I don’t buy what I already have
I  stock up if something is stupidly cheap and it will keep. Loo rolls, soap powder, shampoo or pet food.

I only buy what’s on the list and I only shop with a debit card.

I menu plan and shop for the menu, including packed lunches, snacks and drinks

I take a flask with me when we go out – there is no way  I will pay for a coffee/.

I never carry cash and I leave my debit card at home – I can not impulse buy.

If I go charity shopping, I allow myself £10 and I allow myself to do this once a fortnight.

I bulk cook and freeze meals.

I ration diesel and use of my car to make what fuel I have last a week.

I use freecycle to give things away and sometimes to get things.

I ask the school canteen if I can recycle their plastic containers for plant pots or to use in the home (cat litter, dog biscuits, a bin in each room).

Their website was brilliant and I enjoyed reading it. I am not alone, and I wish I had always lived this way. I soon found out who my friends were when I couldn’t any longer take part in activities that cost money as I now don’t have any. The real friends are just that and have stuck with me.


14 thoughts on “I’m not alone, there are plenty of people like me.

  1. You are an inspiration. I read your blog because I'd admire what you are doing and envy your doing it.
    I would be working alone in a family of five to do this -swimming against the tide, but I do what I can.
    You do great :0)
    Have a good half term.
    Donna x


  2. I'm in it with you on the other side of the big pond in Texas. I am doing better income wise but still need to be very careful as the least thing puts me the red. I enjoy reading about your life and I am amazed at how well you are organized, Keep on inspiring me, you are not alone!


  3. if you think of spending as vulgar, it makes it easier not to feel left out when those around you are spending on things you once did or had. i remind myself that when we die, which of course we all do, we cant take anything with us. so it is absurd some of the things people spend money on. i think of how much i wasted in my teens, clothes, binge drinking, driving around all weekend. i like to make a game of it, how little i can spend. only down fall is books, i have this dread that technology will fail one day or the economic system will fall over (oh yeah that is happening) and i will need manuals on how to survive lol.
    keep up your good work, and keep sharing your thoughts, thanks


  4. I'm a huge fan of the Economides. I watch teir stuff on You Tube. They were a inpiration for me when I was trying to find like minded people… before I discovered Blogs.

    I too used to be a big spender once upon a time.


  5. Thanks for the link to the site, I will be having a good read, i need to reassess my finances, and need some inspiration to do this, I know there are more savings I can be making.

    I am lucky that it is just me and the kids, the kids just get on with it without question, haha min man was sat whatchign telly in his (cheapo) slanket last night quite happily with no heating on


  6. We, like you do many of those things (although at the other end of the country!) and you've given me a good few more ideas – thank you! Goodluck in your adventure, your definitely not alone!! Thanks for the great link.


  7. Once you are on the frugal path and avoiding buying new, full price items of clothing the “sticker shock” of high street prices can be quite something.

    £35+ for something you wouldn't pay more than a fiver for in a charity shop can sometimes leave you standing there open mouthed.


  8. You are not alone and are an inspiration to all. I've been living like this for years and wish car boots & charity shops had been around when my kids were small. I used to dread August and the return to school … four times school uniform and shoes .. aghhhh ..

    I now use good old fashioned cash for most things so I have more control and deffo no more credit cards. If I aint got it I can't spend it is my motto. Chin up and keep up the good work x


  9. You are certainly not alone! I buy all of our clothes at the thrifts. I have to find discount opportunities for hubby because he is an odd size. Even our sheets and pillow cases come from thrifts. I rarely buy meat unless it is marked down on special. We go out to eat — but rarely and never fancy (and only as a last resort).

    The up side is that we are able to save for our retirement. And when we retire, I suspect we'll still be scrimping. I think it's a lifestyle and an important choice — even if you don't have a lot of debt. It's a great preventive!


  10. I favour cash over the debit card for shopping.

    We sort our money into wallets at the beginning of each pay month. We have fuel and shopping and fripperies because we are fortunate enough to be able to have spare.

    When we go shopping it means we pay attention because we only have so much cash with us. We add it all up as we go around and if we go over, it comes out of our fripperies so less for us to spend on nice things we might want. We try not to spend the extra as this can go into our savings then to help out with the plan.

    At least that is how it used to work before we started getting everything at the farm anyway. But still excellent ideas.


  11. No, you're not alone. After 35 years marriage then a (at the time unwanted) divorce that left me homeless and destitute, I was forced into frugality. Made me realise just how much I'd wasted in 35 years. It's a habit that grows on you, like somebody said, after 4 years of living on very little, the prices of new stuff seems unbeleivable.


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